Once a few years ago, I was called on by a co-worker who outranked me just a bit, to work extra. My husband had told me before that he didn't mind my working in the mornings or late at night, but the 12-8pm time slot was hard for him because he had to come home from work and rather than relax and spend time with the kids, he had to hit the ground running cooking dinner, getting homework, etc. So when this co worker asked me to work that 12-8pm shift, I told her I could work another one but that my husband didn't want me working those hours. Her response to me "do you always do what he says?". This response amazed me because this, to me, didn't feel like being submissive or "under his thumb" so to speak, but instead felt like I was being considerate of his feelings. This is something every marriage should have.
There are a lot of articles and sermons written on the old "wives be submissive to your husbands" text in scripture(Eph 5 vs 22-24). I have read both pros and cons. Today I found a similar sounding scripture but dealing with different people entirely and it put things into perspective for me. 1Peter 5 vs 5 "Young men, in the same way be submissive to those who are older. All of you clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, because "" God opposed the proud but gives grace to the humble"". We are to each, whether male or female, old or young, fat/skinny, educated/non educated, etc, treat each other with respect, consideration. An older person has wisdom a younger person may not have, yet a younger person can assist an older person in a physical task they can no longer complete. We each bring to the body of Christ certain talents and abilities.
My husband and I took part in a Daniel Fast this past January. For those of you who don't know what that is, it is a fast consisting of only fruits, vegetables, grains, and nuts/legumes. No meat, sugars, dairy. We went to a book store to find a cook book for recipes for the fast. We found one that had both recipes and devotions for during the fast. Without even planning to, we each went to what I believe we were created to take care of. I was looking at the recipes and planning menus and such and my husband automatically went to the devotions. As the spiritual head of the house his was as it should be. We each have strengths and weaknesses and I believe God has put us together to help each other become the best we can. God's plan is so much better than the plan we would have on our own. He knows what we need. I have no qualms about being a help meet to my husband. My submission to him isn't because he is stronger or smarter than I am . It is a conscious decision to respect him and be considerate of him. He in turn "loves me as Christ loves the church". We are a team, and yes the final say is his.